Cultivating relationships is far from being an easy task at hand. We all have to cope with family ties, kinship, friendship, professional relationships and the relationship we share with our partner. 

It has always intrigued me to know why "managing" relationships in general is very challenging. In order to shed light on this, I researched a lot about relationship, be it with a psychological, spiritual or managerial approach.

My discovery was simply amazing:

"Emotional rigidity causes grief. When events do not go as planned, and people do not have the qualities you expect, you suffer. You create distress in your mind, struggling with the unfairness of the promise of something that did not come to fruition. However, the promise was only ever a suggestion; the idea that it was permanent was in your head. If you are more flexible, you will not experience so much stress."

Relationships break because people are rigid which lead them to create a vision in mind about how the other person should be like; and when they are thwarted,  they feel let down, disappointed and cheated. Simply, do not expect according to your perception. Rather, see the person as they are and make up what they can and cannot give you.

To do only what I can do. - Avdhoot Baba Shivanand Ji (Master of Ancient Vedic Practices).

Say NO, with confidence. Sometimes we are unable to refuse someone who needs help and support, especially when we know we can give it. Sometimes we go an extra mile or two. But it is not guaranteed that the person will necessarily be grateful to you and value the effort you have put in. In these kind of relationships, one will invest more than the other and thus, you must be able to say no with confidence. It is okay to refuse when you know the person is only using your aptitude without much gratitude and appreciation.

To accept and move on. - Buddha (The Enlightened Sage)

This world is populated by 7.2 billion individuals and we are each unique. We have each of us, our own personalities, strengths and weaknesses, characters, karmas and lives, that shape our behaviours. Therefore we have different perceptions, opinions, goals and outlook on life. Accepting how the person is, as a whole, is the only best thing that we can do. We must not want to change someone unless they wish to change themselves first. We should not try to make someone become what we ideally want them to be. This is neither our duty nor our right. We must accept the person as they are and live with it.

To realise that some people are not meant to be! - Avdhoot Baba Shivanandji (Master of Ancient Vedic Practices).

Yes we accept the person as they are and live with it, but some people are simply not meant to be simply because they simply drain the positive energy out of you. These persons, normally have difficult attitudes and challenging behaviours, with which you cannot cope. Then, you delete them permanently from your lives, and if you cannot, you fade them away.  They are so caught up in their own dilemmas and karma that even though  you want to help them, you care for them or you simply love them, you will not be able to change anything. You must let them go.

To know that when you feel everything is falling apart, it could actually be falling together.  - The Shiva Tribe (Community dedicated to Lord Shiva).

Consider that what is in front of you, may be serving you in valuable ways you don’t even understand. Remember, sometimes you have to die a little on the inside first in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger person. People and circumstances will occasionally break you down. But if you keep your mind focused, your heart open to love, and continue to put one foot in front of the other, you can recover the pieces, rebuild, and come back much stronger and happier than you ever would have been otherwise. Fully accept the reality of what is. If you are guilty, confess it. You cannot find peace by avoiding things. Take every change and experience as a challenge for growth. Either it will give you what you want or it will teach you what the next step is.

To remember that life is a series of ups and downs, and this is only temporary. (Power of Positivity @livepositivity).

Just like your emotions, this whole ride we have been thrown onto since birth only exists for a short while. We take it so seriously, yet overlook the fact that we don’t get to spend forever in this existence. Enjoy it while it lasts; yes, even the hardships and despair, because when you look back on your life, you will thank all those relationships you have been through because each of them has taught you something miraculous. on your own personal journey.

And finally,

To understand that: